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Going through a divorce is a challenging and emotional process, but preparing for your initial consultation with a divorce attorney can help you feel more in control and confident. At Coker, Robb & Cannon, Family Lawyers, we understand the importance of being well-prepared to make the most of your first meeting. Here are some essential steps you can take to ensure your consultation is productive and informative.
1. Gather Financial Documents
Divorce often involves dividing assets and liabilities, so it's crucial to bring copies of your financial records, including:
- Bank account statements (checking, savings, investment accounts)
- Tax returns for the past three to five years
- Pay stubs or proof of income for both spouses
- Retirement account statements (401(k), IRA, pensions, stock option plans)
- Credit card statements and outstanding debts
- Mortgage statements and property deeds
- Insurance Policy Documents
Make copies of these records, if possible, rather than bringing originals. This is important for a couple reasons. First, it's less likely your spouse will realize they are gone if you just bring copies. Second, it's unlikely you and your attorney will have time to review everything during your initial consultation, however, should you decide to hire the firm you consult with, you can leave the copies so that your attorney can review them later and to make sure your spouse doesn't interfere with your ability to get the documents.
2. Make Copies of Property Records
If you and your spouse own any property, having documentation is key. Bring copies of:
- Deeds and titles for real estate
- Vehicle titles
- Appraisals of valuable items (jewelry, collectibles, etc.)
- Prenuptial or postnuptial agreements, if applicable
3. Document Your Monthly Expenses
Understanding your current financial situation is important for discussions about spousal support and child support. Prepare a list of your monthly expenses, including:
- Rent or mortgage
- Utilities (electricity, water, gas, internet)
- Groceries and household supplies
- Insurance premiums
- Childcare and educational expenses
- Entertainment and discretionary spending
4. Bring Any Diaries or Records of Key Events
If you have kept a diary, journal, calendar or any records of significant marital events, disputes, or parenting arrangements, these can be valuable in understanding your situation. Written documentation of important dates and incidents can help support your claims during the divorce process.
5. List Your Questions and Concerns
Divorce can be overwhelming, and it’s easy to forget your questions during the consultation. Write down any concerns you have about:
- Child custody and visitation schedules
- Division of assets and debts
- Spousal support
- Legal timelines and procedures
- Potential outcomes of your case
6. Prepare a Timeline of Your Marriage
Creating a simple timeline of key events in your marriage, such as the date you were married, when children were born, major financial purchases, or periods of separation, can provide your attorney with a clearer picture of your relationship.
7. Identify Your Goals and Priorities
Consider what your primary objectives are for the divorce. Whether it's securing custody arrangements, keeping certain assets, or ensuring financial stability, having a clear understanding of your goals can help your attorney strategize effectively.
8. Obtain Contact Information for Relevant Parties
Your attorney may need to contact individuals such as:
- Your spouse’s attorney (if they have one)
- Financial advisors or accountants
- Therapists or counselors involved in your family’s care
- Potential witnesses who may have relevant information
9. Avoid Posting on Social Media and Manage Your Passwords
Be mindful of your social media activity. Avoid posting anything related to your divorce or personal life that could potentially be used against you in court.
You should also consider reviewing and adjusting your privacy settings. Be sure to change/update your passwords on all of your accounts. Often spouses share passwords, but, as things can sometimes get emotionally heated during a divorce proceeding, it’s important your accounts are secure. This is especially important for your messaging and email accounts as you do not want your spouse to have access to your communications with your lawyer or trusted advisors.
10. Be Honest and Open
Finally, honesty is key. Your attorney is here to advocate for you, but they can only do so effectively if they have a complete and accurate picture of your situation. Be forthcoming about any potential challenges or concerns you foresee.
Final Thoughts
Preparing for your first divorce consultation can feel overwhelming, but taking these steps will help you make the most of your meeting and set the stage for a smoother process. Also, we realize that you may not be able to complete all of these steps. If not, don’t worry as you and your attorney can work together to obtain any additional information needed to help you achieve your goals during your divorce.
At Coker, Robb & Cannon, Family Lawyers, we are committed to guiding you through every step with compassion and professionalism.
If you are ready to schedule your initial consultation, contact us today to get started.